A LIST OF ATTITUDES AND 'SIGN POSTS' TO UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
- One person makes assumptions about the other's behaviour
- Not being listened to or heard
- Being put down, i.e. you are stupid, I don't like your hair that way
- Unhealthy expressions of anger, i.e. violence, breaking things, yelling
- Using never and always, i.e. You never listen to me! You're always late!
- Unequal balance of responsibility, i.e. one person consistently doing more than the other
- One person doing most of the giving and the other doing most of the taking
- Controlling the other person, i.e. telling them what to wear, whether they can go out or not, who they can spend time with, etc.
- One-sided decision making
- Your opinions and beliefs are not respected
- Not speaking to the other person, i.e. the silent treatment
- No matter what you do, the other person is never satisfied
- Your feelings are not respected or validated
